Common Things Children Worry About

Although most of us would like to think of childhood as a carefree time before the onset of adult worries, we know that many children worry a tremendous amount about all sorts of things.  Here are some of the childhood worries expressed to PFCS’s school-based counselors:

  • Do other kids think that I am weird?
  • What if my mom or dad dies?
  • If I don’t always think about someone who died, will I forget them?
  • Where is my family going to live? Could we lose our home?
      • Will my parents get divorced?
      • Is there a sexual predator living next door?
    • Will my family be okay in a fire, tornado, earthquake or other natural disaster?
    • When should I start calling my step-mom “mom”?
    • How can I get away from bullies on the playground?
    • When my grandma died, did she go to heaven?
    • Will someone try to grab me when I am walking down the street?
    • I saw some pills at home. Does this mean my mom is an addict?
    • Will I ever have a boyfriend/girlfriend? What if I never find a soulmate?
    • What if my friends really hate me?
    • What is the right way to treat kids who have special needs?
    • Do I have to change my clothes for gym class? What do people think about my body?
    • Will my mom (or dad) be home for my birthday?
    • What if I lose all my followers (on social media)?
    • Does our family have enough money to live?
    • Will my family be deported? Will ICE come and take my mom while I am at school?
    • Will there be new laws that hurt my family?
    • Will someone come to my school and shoot people? When we have lockdown drills, are they “for real”?
    • What should I do for a career? Everyone else seems to know and I don’t.
    • Am I going to always be fat?
    • Will someone I know get cancer?
    • What if I never grow?
    • Will I ever get my period? How will I tell my dad that I got my period?
    • My parent is deployed. Will they get killed?

    Not all kids and teens verbalize their worries so parents may be surprised by what they hear when they start asking.  The more you know, the better equipped you’ll be to provide information, resources, and reassurance.  It’s important that to validate your child’s feelings and not dismiss them because you think the worries are unrealistic.  If your child struggles with significant anxiety, you may want to consult with a counselor about whether your child might benefit from therapy.  Whatever the worries, it is important that children understand they are not alone in dealing with the world.

    This article was written from information gathered by PFCS’s school-based counselors.