Back To School Tips For Busy Parents

Just In Time For Back To School

Back to School Kids

Just in Time for “Back to School”…Tips for Busy Parents

Once more is that time of the year when parents need all the help they can gather to help their children start the new school year off right.  Here are some simple tips to support your children’s academic, emotional, and social success.

  •  Homework typically goes more smoothly when it is done at approximately the same time every day. Children thrive with routines because they can anticipate what’s coming – at least most of the time – which helps them feel secure.
  •  Use “When Then” statements to help children understand your expectations.  “When your homework is finished, you may play with your friend”, or, “When you finish the questions on page 13, you may take a 20 minute snack break”.
  •  Most children need quiet in order to focus on homework.  Help them concentrate by eliminating distractions such as electronic devices, TV, or loud music, and keep siblings engaged in their own quiet tasks.
  •  Provide your child with breaks when needed, especially when they are getting frustrated about not be able to do something. Ask your child to practice deep breathing to regulate himself, along with positive self-talk such as “I can do this”, or “I’ll try again.” Positively reinforce all attempts at emotional regulation.
  • – Never forget that your children need to know you believe in them and that they are capable individuals…even when they are struggling.
  •  Validate their feelings.  “I understand you’re frustrated…these are really tough problems!  You’re doing a great job of trying it over and over until we get this right.”
  •  Show genuine interest in your child’s day beyond asking “How was your day?”, but try to avoid multiple questions that can feel like an interrogation.  Instead, initiate friendly chats about things like who prefers chocolate milk over regular, what’s the best part of the new playground, or which classmates changed the most over the summer.
  •  Encourage them to be a good friend, to share, to take turns, to help others, and be respectful of others’ private space and boundaries.  (Don’t forget that modeling is more effective than lecturing!) These social skills will be helpful to them their entire life.

Finally, do not hesitate to consult with one of our professional counselors if you or your child need our support and knowledge. We’ll be happy to assist you.

Submitted by Analia Chapero, LMFT

Oceanside Promise’s LOVE of LITERACY events

PFCS Supports Oceanside Promise’s LOVE of LITERACY Events

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This summer we were proud to partner with Oceanside Promise to help encourage early literacy to local children. Oceanside Promise is a fellow nonprofit whose mission is to ensure that Oceanside children reach their fullest potential, cradle to career.  For the third summer in a row, the Prevention & Early Intervention team at PFCS conducted outreach, provided needed community resources, and had Principal Dina read to children at three Love of Literacy events!


Jessica Ambriz Cruz


Incredible Years Specialist Jessica Ambriz-Cruz has Principal Dina read to a tent full of happy kids at John Landes Park on July 10.






At John Landes Park



Also at John Landes Community Park, Jessica is joined by Community Outreach Specialists Clare Hernandez, Maria Trinidad, and Veronica Gil who do a tremendous job linking families to resources.





Pete the Cat



Emily Shoots and Principal Dina have fun with Pete the Cat from Oceanside Public Library at the Balderrama Park event on July 15.



Learn more about Oceanside promise at



Partnership with Neighborhood Healthcare

An Exciting Partnership with Neighborhood Healthcare is Underway!

Neighborhood Healthcare LogoWe’re pleased to announce that PFCS and Neighborhood Healthcare entered into a collaborative partnership to meet the needs of more Escondido residents with MediCal.  PFCS is now considered a satellite site of Neighborhood Healthcare, a Federally Qualified Health Center, which means that Neighborhood Healthcare patients who are experiencing mild to moderate distress have even more options for behavioral health services.  Please call 760-741-2660 to speak to an intake coordinator to see how we can help you or your child.


Location of our Poway Office has Changed!

Effective August 1, 2019, PFCS moved its Poway operations to a new space down the road operated by the Poway Alano Club.  The Poway Alano Club is a fellow nonprofit organization devoted to supporting 12-step meetings of all forms.  As both oPoway Alano Club Logorganizations are committed to emotional recovery and growth of Poway area residents, it makes sense to share space and save resources.

Please note that services are not related or interdependent (i.e. one doesn’t have to attend 12-step meetings to receive counseling, and vice versa) and no private information of clients or group attendees is shared between the organizations.

PFCS will operate out of 13943 Poway Road, Suite A, on Tuesdays and Thursdays beginning Thursday August 1.  If you are interested in receiving services at this new office, please call 760-741-2660 to speak with an intake coordinator.

Many thanks to Poway Alano Club for their support!  You can learn more about them at

Career Opportunity at Palomar Family Counseling Service, Inc.

Program: Incredible Years – North Coastal Prevention and Early Intervention

Position: Therapist providing Screening, Incredible Years Parent Trainings, Classroom Presentations, and Small Groups.

Hours: .8 (32hrs) – 1FTE (40hrs)

Available: July 1, 2019

Location: Oceanside/Vista

Population: School Aged Children


  • Screens referrals to ensure appropriate level of service.
  • Refers to higher levels of care and resources as needed.
  • Implements the Incredible Years Prevention Parent Training (12 weeks)
  • Implements the Incredible Years Classroom Prevention Model weekly in every classroom PreK – 1st grade.
  • Implements the Incredible Years Classroom Prevention Model monthly series in identified classrooms 2nd – 3rd grade.
  • Facilitates Incredible Years Small Groups for at risk students PreK – 3rd grade.
  • Teacher consultation
  • Training in Incredible Years: Parent, Teacher and Child.

Eligibility: Registered Associate.  Bilingual preferred.

Skills required: Good Communication, positive attitude, ability to work with a team, organized, energetic, public speaking ability, ability to work with school aged children, and excited to work with the Incredible Years model which includes puppets.

If you are interested please submit a resume by: May 17, 2019 to Lisa Turner, Executive Director at lturner@pfcs.agnecy  cc: Chris DuVall, NCPEI Program Manager at cduvall@pfcs.agnecy

Got shoes!!!!! New Shoes for EVERY Student at Garrison and Libby Elementary

New Shoes for EVERY Student at Garrison and Libby Elementary

Palomar Family Counseling Service, Inc., Garrison Elementary, Libby Elementary, St. James Mission Circle, Shoes to the World and Two Ten Foundation partnered in providing a NEW pair of tennis shoes for EVERY child that attended Garrison and Libby.  As a team, we distributed over 1400 pairs of new shoes.  The youth and families were incredibly appreciative.



Students Brighten Up Escondido Office

Students Painting at PFCS

Wonderful EHS Students Brighten up the Escondido Office

Five amazing National Honor Society Students from Escondido High School recently gave up two days of their cherished spring break to tackle much-needed painting projects.  Deyri, Carmen, David, Norma, and Charlie did an exceptional job of transforming two offices and three hallways into bright and clean spaces for clients and staff alike to enjoy.  Heartfelt thanks to these generous EHS Honor Society students for their time and effort!